Swingers Party Manners

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Some tips on how to behave at a Swingers Party.


When at an on-premise club or swing house party, you are there to have an enjoyable evening and to experience the uninhibited fun that the swinging lifestyle offers. Once you have become familiar with the surroundings and staff members or hosts, try to behave as you would be at any other social gathering, except here you are fully expected to flirt and be a little forward. Don't hesitate to introduce yourselves to other people. You'll find them eager to welcome you and to help you blend into their circle of friends.


While you are advised to be congenial and outgoing, don't be "pushy". Many couples who are new to the "swinging lifestyle" often have unrealistic expectations and are not prepared to handle rejections that may sometimes occur. Freshly showered, perfumed, and neatly dressed people get more fun. Don't let your personal physical idiosyncrasies stop you from having a good time. No one is perfect and people often see others as more attractive and better conversationists.

Be prepared to handle rejection, don't take it personally, everyone attends these events for their own enjoyment, No-one is there to make sure you enjoy yourself.

It is important to remember that PERSONAL CHOICE is the right of every individual and it is expected that everyone respect the right of everyone to say NO to anyone and any activity that they do not want to be involved with.

Learn how to accept "no thank you" graciously. Your approach -- which should be the same as it would be at any social setting -- is a key factor to your acceptance as a desirable partner/friend.

There are several variations to "swinging" and it is important that you and your mate decide, in advance, those which you like and dislike. Some couples prefer to be alone, while others prefer to be with other couples. Establish your own ground rules, but please decide on them BEFORE you start "swinging".


Some people will probably "break the ice" by introducing themselves, along with other couples they know. It's their way of making you feel at home. Feel free to join their conversation and you'll find that most of them will be happy to answer any questions you may have about the "swinging" lifestyle. Be open and honest. Tell them that you are new to "swinging" and you'll discover how helpful people can be.


On your first venture into the swinging scene, you may feel somewhat uneasy about seeing your mate with someone else. Some "swingers" want to share swinging with their mate and feel uneasy having their mate leave to another room with someone. Everyone has their own reasons for their feelings and all feelings are real and should be respected. To avoid embarrassment or disillusionment, discuss your inhibitions with your mate beforehand. Both of you may be more comfortable after talking to other couples and learning how they handled their first "swinging" session.